If I received the advice you did, I would now say “Commitment to a religious organization is one thing, and changing churches is indeed not a light matter. But allegiance to Jesus everything, and my family needs to be in a place suitable and healthy for us.”

I think there are many related Scriptures to this :)

These days I love reading the paraphrase, The Message, especially Galatians:

“11-13 Now, in these last sentences, I want to emphasize in the bold scrawls of my personal handwriting the immense importance of what I have written to you. These people who are attempting to force the ways of circumcision on you have only one motive: They want an easy way to look good before others, lacking the courage to live by a faith that shares Christ’s suffering and death. All their talk about the law is gas. They themselves don’t keep the law! And they are highly selective in the laws they do observe. They only want you to be circumcised so they can boast of their success in recruiting you to their side. That is contemptible!

14-16 For my part, I am going to boast about nothing but the Cross of our Master, Jesus Christ. Because of that Cross, I have been crucified in relation to the world, set free from the stifling atmosphere of pleasing others and fitting into the little patterns that they dictate. Can’t you see the central issue in all this? It is not what you and I do—submit to circumcision, reject circumcision. It is what God is doing, and he is creating something totally new, a free life! All who walk by this standard are the true Israel of God—his chosen people. Peace and mercy on them!” (Galatians 6:11-16)

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Galatians+6&version=MSG

“You must make a life-time commitment to your ministry. Just as you don’t leave your spouse when she has problems and a better-looking one comes along, so you should not leave your church.” (paraphrase)

I responded: “I can find no evidence of that teaching in scripture.”

The conversation didn’t get much further.

The leaders in Toledo, India, China, Russia and a few other places in ubf-world did not “check the pattern” recently… and so those ministries imploded from 2010 to 2011, and many continue to be in denial about the reality of the exodus of long-time leaders that occurred during those years.