ubfriends 10th Anniversary Edition

For those affected by undue religious influence

archived articles and discussions:

ubfriends 1.0 - 2010 to 2015

ubfriends 2.0 - 2015 to 2018

ubfriends 3.0 - 2018 to 2019

Friendship rose

About this site

This website is the third iteration of an experiment I helped launch in 2010, while a leader in a campus Bible group called University Bible Fellowship. When Joe (another leader at the UBF group) contacted me about starting up a "you be friends" website, I was all for it. I was interested in his idea of publicly discussing theology and other topics that might come up. For version 1.0 of the site, we had lofty goals:

This website – pronounced "you-be-friends-dot-org" – is a virtual meeting place for members of University Bible Fellowship (UBF), their friends and family, all believers in Christ, and anyone else who wants to drop by. This project was launched by people who happen to be members of UBF. But this is not an official activity of the UBF organization. Our purpose is to foster open interpersonal communication on spiritual matters that leads to Christian community. http://ubfriends.org/archive2015/about/index.html

The discussions started off decently. However, leaders at the UBF group have traditionally despised public communication and are not in the least bit self-aware enough to deal with critical thinking about their religion, called UBFism. Still, that first version of this site generated 20,000 comments and over 600 articles, from 2010 to 2015. It was a wild ride, to say the least!

By 2015, those of us who initiated the ubfriends blog had left UBF all together, having been met with arrogant leaders who refused to openly discuss issues and topics that our site had surfaced. During those five years, the UBF organization experienced its fourth crisis event, where leaders and members try to reform the group's policies and behaviors, only to be met with stubborn arrogance and a strong desire to protect the UBF heritage and legacy of its co-founders.

After five years of attempting nearly every kind of reform possible, by multiple people, we became exhausted. No one wanted to be the ubfriends admin. So I kept the site, paying for this domain. In 2016 I handed the site over to a few former members of California UBF chapters. I discovered that a fifth crisis/reform event was happening in the UBF organization, localized in California and perhaps Canada. Version 2.0 of this site became bombastic as these former members energetically shared their stories, in their way and on their terms. This site became rather unfriendly again as these new former members were faced with the same stubborn, unchanging leaders who seek to preserve their legacy. Now the California former members are moving on.

This third version of the site is now unscripted. There is no agenda, no script, no goal--just dialogue. Former members are welcome to share your stories here. Current UBF members are welcome to share your thoughts too. And anyone dropping by out of curiosity is welcome to chime in. I will have a contact page up soon or just email me (brian @ knet6 . com) if you have articles.

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What will we talk about?

For starters, I am going to be sharing some of my journey of recovery from the UBF group and their religion (UBFism). Join me if you want or just read along silently.